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Upper Coombe, Leighton Buzzard.

00:00 / 07:11

"Postmemory describes the relationship that the “generation after” bears to the persona, collective and cultural trauma of those who came before – to experiences they remember only by means of the stories, images, and behaviors among which they grew up. But these memories were transmitted to them so deeply and affectively as to seem to constitute memories of their own right."-Marianna Hirsch (Contreras, P.132, 2017)

Do you remember when your dad kicked you, your mum, and your sisters out? He collected all of your mums' clothes and chucked them outside in the rain. Shortly after following was a brick he threw (which was left from the extension that was being built in the patio). We were just in year 4. You had bare feet, no underwear, blue and black striped leggings, and a white t-shirt with a cartoon character of a girl with a microphone in her hand (what an odd fashion choice, I wish I still didn’t care about what I wear). We were scared. We thought if we don’t have a Dad to look after us, what will we do? Will we be on the streets forever? Of course not. Busra, your mum, is the strongest person you know. Stronger than your dad has ever been. She found a roof over you and your sister's heads. When money was short she managed to find a way to put food on the table. She always found a way to show you, love, regardless of how depressed she felt, hearing her cry herself to sleep every night. That's when we decided we wanted to do everything we can, to support ourselves and mum, and our sisters, to make sure, that as women, we can take care and be just as successful as a man, even when we were told to believe not to. Do you remember, we would always hear Dad saying “ You can never leave me, you won’t be able to survive without m, you need a man to take care of the children's needs, you need me and MY money?” When he kicked us out, do you remember, mum walked away and didn’t look back? She provided for 9 years without him, whilst his life fell apart because he didn't have a strong woman behind him. He went bankrupt, lost his house, spent time. But don’t worry, in the end, your mum still managed to pick up the pieces and glue us all back together. Dad never underestimates Mum's power, and I just want to remind, you, don’t underestimate the power in you, because you, achieve all of your dreams. You don’t let anything get in the way.

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